ok now I know men vastly outnumber women on dating sites, and I totally agree if you don't connect then its pretty futile considering progressing.
however I a kinda have a beef with people that get on fine with people and then suddenly choose to ignore them leaving the guy confused and sad. I am not saying only women do this as
I am sure men have done it too, but what happened to manners if your not interested just say sorry I don't think we are right for each other, don't just go and block them behind there back (and no there havent been any thing bad in the conversation that would have made people do this) . why because its online people think they can be this cold and forget simply coutersy

Many reasons for rejection-
they feel no connection with you
they have changed their mind
they have other contacts they wish to explore
they have found what they are looking for but it isn't you
they don't see deletion as anything wrong

Honesty-
people would rather not hurt your feelings directly (being online at the same time)-but it happens
they feel better about deletion when you are offline, explanations can't be given
they don't want to give you a reason why they aren't interested in you

Online dating can be frustrating and heartless with people that are very self-centred and uncaring
Chin up mintomax2....better you dodged a bullet with these individuals than find out in real life they were like this.

Honesty-
people would rather not hurt your feeling

^^^I agree with this
I understand and like that, i really don't see the need to hurt people unnecessarily.

ok now I know men vastly outnumber women on dating sites, and I totally agree if you don't connect then its pretty futile considering progressing.
however I a kinda have a beef with people that get on fine with people and then suddenly choose to ignore them leaving the guy confused and sad. I am not saying only women do this as
I am sure men have done it too, but what happened to manners if your not interested just say sorry I don't think we are right for each other, don't just go and block them behind there back (and no there havent been any thing bad in the conversation that would have made people do this) . why because its online people think they can be this cold and forget simply coutersy

I agree courtesy does go along way, it doesnt take much to say thanks but no thanks.
Many of us probably have deleted ppl but I agree a little msg outlining why you have removed them is respectful.
Ive done the thanks for the contact but we never seem to chat, so I wish you well in your search etc .

Why do most people delete you behind your back?

Because most people are simply weak. It's got sweet fa to do with not wanting to 'hurt someone's feelings'...and everything to do with making it as easy as possible for themselves.

why cant people be honest

I would say, "Block" and "No further contact", is honest enough.

however I a kinda have a beef with people that get on fine with people and then suddenly choose to ignore them leaving the guy confused and sad.

The guy will just have to buck up and get over being confused and sad, because nothing is going to change.

If they were hideously shy about getting in contact with you, then expect them to be the same way telling you to get lost.

but what happened to manners if your not interested just say sorry

ya ya, stop being a little girl and get over it. Just move on.

its not being a little girl its called being a human being and having consideration for other people, your brutal and cold response is exactly the problem, people thinking its ok to treat people badly just because its online. block and no further contact is honest and upfront its behind people back cowardly.

Why do most people delete you behind your back?

Because most people are simply weak. It's got sweet fa to do with not wanting to 'hurt someone's feelings'...and everything to do with making it as easy as possible for themselves.

I think you are right but it kinda makes me feel sad that humans can be like this

its not being a little girl its called being a human being and having consideration for other people, your brutal and cold response is exactly the problem, people thinking its ok to treat people badly just because its online. block and no further contact is honest and upfront its behind people back cowardly.

While I sort of agree with you, I'd strongly recommend you toughen up, develop a ruthless streak.

You are not reponsible for other people's actions, so stop worrying about how others behave

ok now I know men vastly outnumber women on dating sites, and I totally agree if you don't connect then its pretty futile considering progressing.
however I a kinda have a beef with people that get on fine with people and then suddenly choose to ignore them leaving the guy confused and sad. I am not saying only women do this as
I am sure men have done it too, but what happened to manners if your not interested just say sorry I don't think we are right for each other, don't just go and block them behind there back (and no there havent been any thing bad in the conversation that would have made people do this) . why because its online people think they can be this cold and forget simply coutersy

YOu will get used that sort of behaviour. You just need to not get too carried away with cyberspace connections.
You need to meet as soon as possible so as not to build up a fantasy in your mind and then it will be on or it will be off after the meeting. Many people are just liars and players on the dating sites and you need not to take it seriously. THey may be drunks, flakes or whatever. You dont know who you are dealing with, may not even be female, or who they say they are. I used to feel the way you do but you get over that after it happens a few times and just forget it. Move on.

I think you are right but it kinda makes me feel sad that humans can be like this

It is better than deleting you in front of you isnt it!! It is just a game and the world is full of all sorts of crazies and losers and anyone can get online and on the sites. There are millions now where once there were only thousands and more genuine apparently. But those days are gone. Just the way it is and you need to develop a thicker skin like I have and just laugh it all off. I could tell you some stories and the dates!! wow!! Crazy....

The thing is, you don't really know these people, chatted a couple of times, haven't meet (I'm assuming) so it's not like you're actually friends.
What you need to understand is that most women are receiving a lot of contacts, all the time. It's a hard job keeping up with it all.

Do you really want them to be honest??? Because honesty would be..." Sorry you don't really interest me and I'm not attracted to you and I have a lot of other guys to talk to other than you." But they don't want to write that because they don't want to hurt your feelings.

Sorry to be so blunt but that is the reality, don't worry about it.

People spend to much time worring about things they can't change. Life is much more fun when you don't give a shit about irrelevant crap.

I have had this happen several times - people would be all interested and affectionate, talking about things you could do together in the future, saying how much they enjoy talking to you, and then abruptly stop chatting and answering texts.

Almost invariably, they were doing the same thing to other people at the same time, and have decided to go with one of them.

Don't take it personally, just delete them and move on. The reality is that there's a lot of competition for female attention, and they're bound to choose someone eventually - the odds are it won't be you.


The only time I really get annoyed is when people try and get free things out of you before coming clean that they've decided on someone else or, even worse, the ones who say they have chosen someone else but maybe they could revisit if that doesn't work out. Who on earth has so little self-respect that they will be someone's backup boyfriend?

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its not being a little girl its called being a human being and having consideration for other people, your brutal and cold response is exactly the problem, people thinking its ok to treat people badly just because its online. block and no further contact is honest and upfront its behind people back cowardly.

its not being a little girl

Yes, you're behaving like your mommy took your plums and stepped on them.

its called being a human being

Nothing human about "Online". Its an extension of "Internet ordering/shopping". You really need to stop whining.

If a woman doesn't think you are what she is looking for , she certainly is not obligated to send you a note saying, "Hush little baby don't you cry mama's going to choose another guy, if that other guy whines like you, mama's going to put her boot up his ass..".

and having consideration for other people,

If thats what will make your heart all happy happy, go join the Red Cross. You'll like it there.

your brutal and cold response is exactly the problem,

Tough. You whine like a little girl. That certainly isn't going to get any woman hot in her panties.

people thinking its ok to treat people badly just because its online.

People are people. Good, bad, sympathetic, pathetic, winners, loosers, etc... "People".
You probably have it rough coping with the real world scenarios of meeting women.

block and no further contact is honest and upfront its behind people back cowardly.

Its convenient. Manup, or get offline.

well why dont you read this article and think again about being honest!
onlinedatinghotwomen.weebly.com.
I have nothing more to say as this would tell you everything you need to know to meet women on online dating.

Ive yet to have any woman contact me on any dating site in the 5 yrs ive been trying. But if i do i would like to know why they stopped chatting to me. It might of been something i said that upset them. Its always best to know why so u dont make the same mistake again. frankly its down right rude to block someone without a reason why. Most men get blocked cause of something they said. I used to own a chat site and saw how most men treated women. Then they couldnt understand why they got reported or blocked. But women were even worse than men lol.

ok now I know men vastly outnumber women on dating sites, and I totally agree if you don't connect then its pretty futile considering progressing.
however I a kinda have a beef with people that get on fine with people and then suddenly choose to ignore them leaving the guy confused and sad. I am not saying only women do this as
I am sure men have done it too, but what happened to manners if your not interested just say sorry I don't think we are right for each other, don't just go and block them behind there back (and no there havent been any thing bad in the conversation that would have made people do this) . why because its online people think they can be this cold and forget simply coutersy

You need to learn to grow a thick skin if you are going to expose yourself to cyberspace dating sites. It happens to all of us and you need not to be emotionally involved. Manners just seem to go out the window if a person is not really interested and they feel that as you are not real and in the flesh, they can act as they wish. Some just like playing games and getting the numbers on the list and then delete them. Women have a lot of choice on these sites and can afford to blow anyone off.

Women block because men can get very nasty when they are rejected. Part of the way things are and I would suggest that you go look offline for a partner, much healthier.

ok now I know men vastly outnumber women on dating sites, and I totally agree if you don't connect then its pretty futile considering progressing.
however I a kinda have a beef with people that get on fine with people and then suddenly choose to ignore them leaving the guy confused and sad. I am not saying only women do this as
I am sure men have done it too, but what happened to manners if your not interested just say sorry I don't think we are right for each other, don't just go and block them behind there back (and no there havent been any thing bad in the conversation that would have made people do this) . why because its online people think they can be this cold and forget simply coutersy

Hmmm these days there are way too many sensitive ppl around therefore sometimes honestly don't go down well because ppl CANT HANDLE HONESTY they fall apart when they hear it. So looks like lies these days are the go.

Lies do not apply to me though I don’t give a toss if the person crumbles because they can’t handle the truth. Be straight out at least they know where they stand.

Hmmm these days there are way too many sensitive ppl around therefore sometimes honestly don't go down well because ppl CANT HANDLE HONESTY they fall apart when they hear it. So looks like lies these days are the go.

Lies do not apply to me though I don’t give a toss if the person crumbles because they can’t handle the truth. Be straight out at least they know where they stand.

*Sniffs* You didn't have to be so honest... I hate you bitch, you're so mean, wahhhhhh!!!


Joking, I hear ya Snow, you always seem to speak my mind...